You Make Negative Feelings Worse When You Try to Stop Them. Do This Instead.

You Make Negative Feelings Worse When You Try to Stop Them. Do This Instead.

Mental health

My therapist often repeats one sentence to me. I believe I would be able to recite it even if someone woke me up at midnight. (Don’t try to wake me up at midnight, though. At least if you value your life.)

The sentence is: “You create what you focus on.”

Let me explain. When we experience something unpleasant, we want more than anything for it to just go away. If you experience pain, you concentrate on the fact of how much you want the pain to stop existing. If you have mental health problems, you often think about how you can make them easier to bear, how to make them go away.

If You Are Autistic with ADHD, You Are a Study in Contradictions

If You Are Autistic with ADHD, You Are a Study in Contradictions

Neurodivergence, AuDHD
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Ever since I remember, I have always wanted two completely opposite things at the same time — both with equally great passion. To go out with friends and to be alone, to travel and to stay at the places I know, to attend various events, and to stay at home and read. Whatever I decided, there was a part of me that was always unsettled. As an adult, I realized that other people around me aren’t such a mess of contradictory desires. But it was only after watching this video by Yo Samdy Sam that it dawned on me — this is happening to me because the “autistic part” of me and the “ADHD part” always want — or need — completely different things.

A Famous Blogger Asked Me if I “Should Use My AuDHD Diagnosis as a Shield”

A Famous Blogger Asked Me if I “Should Use My AuDHD Diagnosis as a Shield”

AuDHD, Neurodivergence

There is a Czech blogger that I respect a lot. She survived the death of her husband while pregnant with her third child, and she didn’t let this devastate her — she grew from it. She writes about spirituality, mental health, and an alternate lifestyle. She is an inspiring person. But lately, more and more, I find that my views on life sometimes clash with hers. Lately, she wrote a whole long Facebook post about autism. She wrote that psychiatric diagnoses have surged in recent years, and it seems that everyone has a diagnosis these days. And while understanding and support are crucial, we should question whether every case requires a diagnosis. I did connect to this post, and I really like the last part. I did worry (and I still do) if I’m letting the diagnosis override my identity as a person. But the discussion below bothered me.